The purpose driven you

“LET ME GO. PLEASE LET ME DIE,” SOBBED THE FRAIL, OLD gentleman as the strong, young swimmer struggled against the boisterous waves of the open ocean.

“Just a few more minutes, sir, and I will have you safely to shore,” replied the young man, gasping for every breath.

Finally, they made it to the beach and both fell, desperately exhausted, onto the sand. “Why did you

save me?” cried the angry 76-year-old man. “Why didn’t you let me die? Your good deed is the curse of my existence.”

Startled by these words, the young man looked down at the older man who had nearly drowned.

As he panted from the heroic effort of rescuing the victim from the violent waves, he shook his head, revealing the shock and the mystification that filled his mind.

Winston had known Mr. Cambridge for 20 years. He had always admired the hard-working
a businessman for his success. To him, Mr. Cambridge was a role model that embodied all he hoped to be someday.

Having worked all his life to achieve the status of being the wealthiest man in the city, Mr. Cambridge owned millions of dollars worth of investments and an enviable mansion on the beachfront.

He was the father of three well-educated children who all worked in his companies and the husband of a woman who loved him. Hundreds of friends, relatives, and admirers looked to him for inspiration and guidance.

Perplexed by the disparity between his observations of Mr. Cambridge’slife and the gentleman’s desire to die, Winston asked, “But, sir. Why do you want to die?” Little did
Winston knows that the answer to this question would change his life forever.

As tears flooded his aged eyes, the old man buried his face in his hands and lamented, “What was it all for? Is this all there is? What did I gain? I have everything and yet nothing.

Everyone thinks I am a success, but I am a failure. I have given everything and received nothing. I made my parents happy and proud of me, and my wife has everything she could desire. My children want for nothing, and my
reputation among my friends, associates, and enemies is impressive.

Still, I am empty, depressed, frustrated, and sad. My life has no meaning. Unlike my bank accounts, which are well filled, I am unfulfilled.
“Everyone knows what I am, but I still don’t know why I am. For years I have been so driven by the expectations of others that I have not discovered my personal reason for being. I do not wish to live with such emptiness.

Today I decided it was better to be dead than to be alive and not know why.”

These words pierced the younger man’s soul. As he attempted to regain his composure, the old man took his hand, looked into his eyes with a soul-searching gaze and said, “Son, do not strive to be like me. Find out who you are and be yourself.”

As the medics carried the old man away and the sound of the ambulance faded in the distance, young Winston stood to stare out to sea. He was not really aware of his surroundings, for the old man’s
words had stirred him deeply. “Who am I? What does it mean to be me?” echoed in his brain.

These questions—Who am I?

Why am I here?

Where did I come from?

What was I born to do?

What can I do?

Where do I fit?

Why am I different?

What is my potential?

Where am I going? Why did I come to this planet?—are universal questions that haunt every human being.

Each of us must find the answers to these questions of purpose if we are going to enjoy a meaningful, effective, fulfilling life.

The purpose is the key to life.

Without purpose, life has no meaning.

There are millions today just
like Mr. Cambridge.

They are busy making a living, but they experience very little of life.

If your goal in life is to be wealthy so you can retire, you have embarked on a depressing journey to nowhere.

If your vision for life is measured by status, your upkeep will be your downfall.

Vision is buried in purpose.

Without knowledge of purpose, life becomes an endless string of activities with little or no

Like a rider on a rocking horse, life without purpose makes much motion but no progress.
(Culled from Unleash Your Purpose by Myles Munroe)

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Nobody will hand your dream over to you, you have to create it.

It all starts in the mind before it can become a reality.
You have to dream it. That sounds like a cliché but it’s true. Whatever you able to see in your mind becomes your reality and there is no boundary to how you can dream your dreams.
Why do you need to create your dreams? You need to know where you are going to so that when you will know the right direction to take.
The good news is that dreaming is free of charge so no one will bill you for it.
I will share a bit about my story with you. Back in 2010 while I was waiting for my compulsory national service, I got a job teaching in a secondary school in the semi-rural community where I lived. I had big dreams for my life. I will sit down in my room and write down the things I wanted to accomplish with my life.
I dreamed of doing great things some of which include becoming a top motivational speaker, author of a bestseller book, organizing traveling, traveling outside the country, helping people globally to become the best of who they are etc. The core of my dreams was that I wanted to impact lives.
When I talk with friends and share some of these things they ask always ask me how to achieve to achieve all these things. I remember being told I was too ambitious for a classroom teacher.
To be frank, at that time I had no clue of how I was going to achieve all these.

Well, when there is a will there is a way. I never stopped dreaming. And I kept my faith.
Fast forward to 2017, I have been able to live out most of my dreams. I have been paid to speak in events as a motivational speaker; I have organized my own programs. I’m privileged to work in an organization where all we do is empower women to become the best of who they are. I have traveled outside the country all-expense paid because of my impact projects in communities.
Back then my dream was as big as far as I could see on my horizon. I didn’t let the surroundings that I found my self in stop me from dreaming.
I created those dreams in my mind and it actualized eventually. I had a picture of where I was going so it affected everything I got involved with including the jobs I accepted.
If you can dream you can achieve it. There are no boundaries to how far you can dream.
Over the years the dreams change in outlook and methods being used but core value still remains which is helping others become their best.
Dreaming is about seeing possibilities of what you can become irrespective of what you look like today. People can help you with anything but no one can help you to dream your dream.
So dear to live your dreams you have to create it. Just as if you are traveling to Lagos you already know where you are going so you know the right vehicle to enter.
You have to know what your dreams are for you to take action on it.

Do you want to create your dream?

1. Take a moment and just dream. Think about 2 years, 5 or 10 years from now. Where do you want to be in your life? In the different areas of your life career, business, spiritual and family life etc how do you want I? to be like? Create it as vivid as possible. What you want to be doing, how you want to see in society. Just Dream. Remember there are no limits.
2. Write it down in your journal.
N/B I know some of you must have done this before that shouldn’t stop you from doing it again.

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Fight for your dreams.

There comes a time when you have to drop your burdens in order to fight for your dreams

~Les Brown

I was reading a book by Les Brown this morning and I came across that quote and it made so much sense to me. Sometimes the distance between where you are and your dreams are filled with obstacles and burdens from our past.
I remember before I got married I had been through relationships that failed most times because of my actions and inactions. For a long time, I let my experiences define me.
At a point, I thought I couldn’t love anyone because I couldn’t develop that deep love for anyone again because I have loved before and I was burnt.
Even when eligible bachelors approached me for a relationship I never take them seriously and I find ways to push them away.
Deep down I had this dream to marry someone that I can deeply love and he will love me back as much as I do but my past was a barrier to achieving this dream.
You see life is not a bed of roses. You are not entitled to anything except what you work for and demand for.
Good things happen to good people and bad things also happen to good people. We cannot control some things that happen to us but we can actually control how we react to them.
There is no good enough reason to give up.
When my husband asked me out I put up my defenses again and told him I am not ready for a relationship. He continued talking to me.
At a point, I really had to ask myself what was my problem. I realized that I was afraid of being hurt. I was still holding on to the pains of my past relationship.
Photo credit- Adaeze Ngozi
If I ever wanted to get married at least I would have to start with a relationship. So I had to give it a try. I had to let go of my past to be able to move forward to my dream.
I prayed!
I stayed true to me!
I studied to find out what makes relationships work!
There where times the negative feelings crop up but it’s my choice to feed on it or to kill it.
Today I am living my dreams with the best husbands on earth who loves me like no other.
All these wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t go for it. Sometimes all you need is to give your dream a chance and it will work out just fine.
There is no better time than now to fight for your dreams.
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You can set and achieve your goals.

The year is coming to an end and most of us are still struggling to achieve the goals we set since January.

Truth is setting goals and achieving them take work.

You have to take action.

Saw this on and decided to share here!

You can increase the odds of reaching your goal by 42 percent through the simple act of writing your goal down.
In our society, there are three levels of commitment.

The lowest level is simply telling someone what you are going to do.

The next level of commitment involves writing it down, and the highest level of commitment requires you to write your goal down and sign it.

Just because someone said something doesn’t always mean it’s going to happen.

We live in a world that when it’s all said and done, there’s a lot said and very little done; but when you get something in writing, it denotes a serious understanding, and we all know when we attach our signature to something, we have made a commitment.

Are you struggling to achieve your goals?

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